Frequently Asked Questions
What is a ketubah?
The ketubah is probably the first pre-nuptial agreement.
Simply put, a ketubah is a legal document outlining the husband’s obligation to provide for his wife’s needs.
Do I need a ketubah?
A ketubah is considered such an integral part of the marriage, that if it is lost, it must be immediately replaced with a ketubah d'Irksa. This is a new document that confirms that there was an original ketubah at the time of the wedding, but that it was lost. This new ketubah re-affirms the commitments that were spelled out in the original.
Mah Nishtana? How is the CustomKetubah different from other ketubot?
Why do you need to contact our officiating Rabbi?
I will work closely with your Mesader Kiddushin, the officiating Rabbi, to insure that your Ketubah is written exactly the way it should be, according to his preference.
Isn't there a standard wording?
Not totally. Although the basic wording is pretty standard, there are some different customs. Also, there can be multiple ways to spell names and locations in Hebrew.
Let me give you an example. My son got married in Lakewood, New Jersey. There are at least 8 valid ways to spell “Lakewood” in Hebrew, 2 ways to spell “New,” and 8 ways to spell “Jersey." That already gets us to 128 combinations. Then, some rabbis like to write “Lakewood Mata” (City of Lakewood) and some write “B’Medinat (in the State of) New Jersey.”
How much advance notice do you need?
I would very much like for you to have the completed Ketubah in your hands no later than a week before the wedding.
For that reason, I would like to be able to start work no less than 30 days before the wedding.
Which details do you need in order to begin?
All details regarding design, including choice of paper, lettering, and artwork, as well as complete information from your officiating Rabbi.
Can you do rush jobs? We're getting married in two weeks!
If you need the ketuba, in less than 30 days, I will do it if I can. There is a 30% surcharge for ketubot that are ordered less than 3 weeks in advance. If necessary, I will ship overnight, which will double the shipping and handling fee to $50.
We already have a printed Ketubah that was filled in at our wedding. Can we order an "upgrade" from you?
Your Rabbi can tell you if your original witnesses may sign a copy of what they previously signed, and make this the official “Ketubah of Record.”
Your other option–and many people do this as an anniversary present–would be to order a “facsimile” Ketubah, without signatures, to be framed. In that case, you would still be required to hold onto the original. (Possibly attached to the back of the frame, so you’ll always know where it is.)